Happy full moon!
It’s always interesting to me as how we as humans in our plight to be advanced still adhere unconsciously to more primal occurrences such as the full moon. Last evening my kindergarten teacher friend was horrified to find out about the full moon as it sends her kids in a tizzy. Others have done the same in the past, grunted over the phase of the moon and it’s effect, wherein the actual issue isn’t celestial at all.
Control. We want it and yet we rarely truly have it.
It’s this ambiguous idea humanity grasps onto daily that control will bring us security or in blatant terms we will be fed, housed, loved and happy. If we are not fed, housed,loved and happy then we are WRONG…. terror! Anarchy!! We have to be entrenched in a socially acceptable happiness masked in debt!
Control also sends its creepy monster fingers into other weird places such as the needs: the need to control, know the outcome of a situation, satisfying answers, quick fixes, avoidance, suffering, fitting in, perfect home, keeping up with technology, bragging rights, weight, being right and so on.
We are expected from a young age to have control. People want quiet, well behaved children to turn into charming, successful adults. The problem is we never then learn how to deal when stuff leaves our comfort zone, our very specific small comfort zone.
The thing is, control is a myth. Yes, maybe some of us were better planners and knew from a young age what we wanted in life such as career or love match but that is not a herald of control like you hear some some say ” Look at her, she has got her life together!” So this person paid attention, knew themselves, learned from others and made practical choices but that doesn’t mean s/he can control her life. Ironically, humans go out into the world everyday not trusting each other so much but trusting the Universe will keep them safe from earthquakes, car accidents, nuclear disaster or family crisis. That person ” in control” may just be good at looking in control. S/He may be dealing with severe problems but well versed at dealing with their issues….those folks could be a human emotion bomb waiting to happen!
Humans don’t want to accept the fragility of life …it makes us vulnerable, the need for control helps us keep vulnerability at bay.
The best way for us to feel more control in a crazytrain world is by adopting routines that are simple, we’re not trying to add stress here so simplicity is a must. All of our suggestions are inexpensive and completely up to you.
Hopefully, we are all engaging in daily hygiene but we can always take it a step further and add simple daily tasks such as flossing our teeth everyday. Take baths instead of showers, allow yourself the time and enjoy; Add one cup of each of the following to aid in soul cleansing: epsom salts, baking soda and sea salts. Rub down your skin in coconut oil. Buy some yummy smelly body wash and scrub down and foamy. Make yourself a beard.
I’m not telling to go out and join a gym and become Master of Universe, I’m saying go out for a 15 minute walk a couple times a week, if you can hit a local park with hiking trails away from manicured places even better.
3) Get a pedicure.
Yes, even you fellas. Having someone work on you is wonderful self care and pedicure can be inexpensive, so shop around.
4) Purge your closets and your life
Clutter makes us grumpy!!! We focus easier in a well kept space. Organize your life, maybe you are ready to let some of your stuff go!!! Especially if you still have gifts from bad relationships…time to donate or have a yard sale.
5) Spend time with your BFF
Just you and the BFF, no spouses!Go out put on some wigs and act like you did at 22.
6) Watch comedies
Listen, I get the need to watch dramas and talk about all the horrible scenes in Game of Thrones but maybe you feel like crap because of all the violence you are subjecting yourself to…even fake violence makes us crazytown. So give yourself a month of comedies and cartoons, tell me how you feel then!!
7) Be aware of your breathing
This bustily world has us breathing so shallow because we are focused on external instead of internal. Sit in a comfy chair and breathe deeply for 3 minutes a day…then five…and eventually you can go as long as you want. Maybe get into mediation or if that is too difficult pick an object to focus on while deep breathing and stay quiet for a half hour.
8) Talk to young people
Preferably under 8 years old, ask them what they think about important matters in life. My nephew is 3, he often tells me all about his work truck losing a wheel. Perspective is important!
9) Choose happiness
With every situation, choose the positive tone. Even Darth Vader had a redeeming moment when he saved Luke Skywalker from the Emperor.
10) Know where you came from
Ask your older family members for stories about their grandparents. Find out about the amazing humans that came before you, their stories, occupations and what they survived. We can come to appreciate and be grateful for what our forebears endured for us. There are plenty of free websites out there to aid you in a lineage search or you can (gasp) go to the library or records office and search old school. These people, whether you like it or not are part of you, wouldn’t be nice to know the origin of your traits?
When I was having a tough time because I realized that most of my anger or frustration was about what I believed my life/relationship/job/body shape should be because I had done this/that/what I was told, I used these same simple tasks to help me feel more in control and by feeling so I made better choices. You may have some that are a better fit for you, so do those instead.
Just remember, these simple activities aren’t saving people from earthquakes…you are saving you from yourself.
Who doesn’t need that from time to time???
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PS (We haven’t done one these in a while)
Ridiculous ways to feel better I discovered through trial and error:
Having famous people sign a book of poetry not written by them. Touching flowers and stuffed animals at the store. Decoupage. Drawing hearts on my body like I was 12. Making keychains. Displaying toys from my youth. Mailing cards to folks for no reason other than to say how awesome they are. Looking at ancient art. Giggling with babies. Setting my text ringtone to ducks and watching small kids try to look for them inside a mall. Bizarre lamps. Jokes about the movie Inception.