Yoda truly was right, “Do or do not, there is no try.”
There is only doing. The idea of trying gives your subconscious room for doubt that will create failure. The thing about doing is despite what the outcome is you will achieve something, it may not be what you originally planned; in fact, it could be ten times better!!! In doing, something will have been accomplished.
No more new year resolutions(trying)…it’s time for new years revolutions(doing)!! Real change, not tawdry weak promises ventured in vanity, are real choices made in reality will be not only attainable but kinder to your self, body, mind and spirit. When we want to make these sweeping changes in our lives, how often do we make some fantasy goal that seems easy in media?
Just because you cut out sugar and exercise three times a week doesn’t mean you will lose fifty pounds in a month. Just because you sign up for a dating service doesn’t mean you will have a wedding in a year. Just because you buy a book on how to knit will mean you will be gifting magnificent sweaters next Christmas. What I notice with folks and their hopes trying to change is they forget to factor in …reality.
Reality tends to provide a different timeline to our goals than what we truly desire…that is where stuff gets tricky and since we didn’t factor more time with reality we give up. Basically, we tell ourselves that our hopes and goals are not as important as the effort. In fact, using the term goal dictates a finite point, that after a set of skills are completed the reward is given and that’s it. Resolutions fail inevitably because we are only focused on that finite point in time. Just because Tom Hanks won an Oscar didn’t mean he quit performing… if the Oscar was his only goal he could have quit; lucky for us he continued on (who doesn’t LOVE Toy Story??)
We have all done this, told ourselves that our success, happiness or change only lies in a fixed moment of time. After I pay off this mortgage I’ll blah blah blah, when I lose 80 pounds I’ll blah blah blah, after my children move out I’ll blah blah blah. People!!! All that blah blah blah, can happen now! All that qualifying for change, is possible now. All those excuses lie in trying. All those excuses lie in a linear existence meaning trying this will equal that but in a doing existence, it’s way more open as doing brings in more possibilities that you could ever hope for, doing this created that,that and that.
Say you want to be healthier so you decide to do a new exercise regimen that involves low impact weight lifting and yoga. You decide that no matter what, you will adhere to the schedule you have made and go from there. Success!!! The year was a success because you did what you set out to do; there were days you had to get up earlier to make your workout, you followed your original plan and you achieved more than you had originally planned. In doing your original plan you unknowingly accomplished better time management, better self-awareness/kindness and meals became healthier. In doing, we achieve far more than we originally plan and we invite infinite possibilities into our lives.
Revolutions are in the maintenance. Making a shift in behavior to produce a change, doesn’t mean a change for a period of time, true change(doing) comes in infinite moments and taking out the date on the calendar. I choose in every moment to stay true to myself and this change so therefore I choose to eat greens instead of cupcakes or I choose to enjoy myself on dates despite the outcome or I choose to be fulfilled with what I already have.
In every moment I do, I choose, I give myself the benefit of the doubt that I am worth being happy and successful.
YES! Let’s do that!
Choose your revolution! Choose yourself!
May you have an incredibly happy, successful New Year!!!
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